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March 19, 2008

Marriage Actually

I can't believe that I've been married for 2 and a half years. Truth be told, in the early times, I didn't think we'd last this long. Like I told someone, i thought that every big fight would be our last (read:the marriage won't last long enough for us to have another fight).

I'm weirdly always into some phase of 'improving our marriage' and my husband has sweetly enough always joined into what activities I planned into achieving this goal, albeit sometimes reluctantly.

When I insisted that we went to the Marriage Convention last year, (it wasn't as good as I expected by the way), I learnt that statistics showed that couples who past the 3 year mark have significantly reduced chances of getting a divorce. And thus, that became my target. What was previously my mantra "3 more years...3 more years..." became "2 more years...2 more years..." and now "Half a year more..". At this point I'd like to point out that, obviously, I'm not even close to being a marriage counsellor and obviously, no one should come to me for marriage advice...hah!

But there is some truth to the above. I found that over time, whilst the arguments did not end, the topics became more mature and not (always) about some insignificant thing like in the former days. And I also found that we had found ways to work around some highly debated (isn't this a much nicer way to say argued??) issues, sometimes not on purpose.

And although I must tell you dearies that marriage is not a walk in the park, even to the best of us, it gets better if you keep working on it. It does. So keep your chin up cos there are better days ahead.

By the way, Honey, let's talk about who's washing the dishes tonight ;)

P.s. I'd like to update on Humaira's progress in school I have yet to get a decent picture on her in uniform.

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

HAHA.

OBVIOUSLY he washed them.

SgGooner said...

you know, you're right. ain't easy...

raihana said...

ruzai..don't leak my secrets dah...
sggooner..ditto

Anonymous said...

rai dun forget humaira's measurements sms me k? Mardhiah