Sour End To A Sweet Weekend

Someone really pissed me off yesterday.

At an aunt's place where there was a gathering, Humaira wanted to go out one of the doors to the pond. I said no and another auntie also told her no. So Humaira stood in the corner at the corner of the room, quiet and sullen. A first I didn't know that she was upset. I thought that she was poot-pooting or something.

She stood there for a good 10 minutes with an upturned smile and later a tear rolled down her cheek. She wasn't doing anything else so I let her be for awhile. Later, when I turned to smile at her, she came to me and was already in an ok mood.

When people were leaving later, a woman whom I don't know came to me and told me to my face that my daughter was a defiant one. DEFIANT?!!!!!! At first I was nice enough to tell her that she's not defiant, just testing her limits. Then she continued to say that I needed to reprimand her. The way she said it was like my daughter has never been scolded before and was pampered all along.

I tell you, my blood was boiling by then and I couldn't help thinking,"Just who does she think she is?!!" I pity any child in her family. I'm not against scolding children but at this age, reprimanding might not be the correct way. Science will tell you that they are not developmentally ready to understand what scolding means. Worse, they will emulate your actions. Children receiving too much scolding might even be emotionally affected. Religiously speaking, we are taught that we need to be gentle with children. Prophet Muhammad is our best example.

Go and do more reading please before you go and say that people's children are defiant!!! As you can see, I'm feeling MAD,MAD,MAD!